I once wrote a blog that included the statement, “I feel things…” I went on to reflect on the fact that I’m intensely emotional…which I consider to be a GOOD thing…with some bad side effects.
Do you ever feel out of control when you’re upset? Kids push you over the edge? Someone makes you so angry you just quit talking to that that person? Maybe, you think someone is feeling badly toward you. Or maybe, someone just attacked you and you’re a ball of nerves inside.
Are you like me, and feel guilty the second you snap at your kids or spouse, when you know it’s only because YOU are stressed and lacking rest? Honestly, I felt as if this book was written for me.
Every. Single. Page.
It’s so encouraging to have steps to take to free myself from some of the labels I put on myself, and to have clear ways to rid myself of negative thoughts and emotions that send me into a tailspin, internally and externally.
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Normally, I’m an electronic library girl (and that’s how I read this book), but after reading it, I want to own it for future reference. Lysa TerKeurst is one of my favorite, authors/bloggers and you can find her at Proverbs 31 Ministries, or on her website. You can buy the book on Amazon here.
Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions reminds us that, no matter how we process emotions, we’re aren’t alone. But it doesn’t end there, TerKeurst gives practical steps on how to respond well, even when you normally spew out negativity before you remember to reign it in. I can already see myself handling things better.
She talks about the 4 types of responders:
- Exploders who shame themselves
- Exploders who blame others
- Stuffers who build barriers
- Stuffers who collect retaliation rocks
You may find yourself somewhere in that list, but once you read on, you realize, you can see yourself in all of them.
Favorite points to ponder from TerKeurst in the book:
“I can face things out of my control without acting out of control.”
“My job is to be obedient to God in the midst of my own set of issues.” (See Scripture recommendations: Galatians 5:23, 1 Peter 5:8)
“Feelings are indicators, not dictators.”
“I may not be gentle by nature, but I can be gentle by obedience.” (See Scripture recommendations, King Jehoshaphat, 2 Chronicles 20)
“I’m not an unglued woman who is a slave to her circumstances, her hormones, or to other people’s attitudes. Those things might affect me, but they don’t rule me.”
“Lies flee in the presence of truth. But just as we have to flip on a light to erase the darkness, we have to activate truth to erase the lies. We have to capture our thoughts, hold them up to the truth, and make them line up with Scripture before we entertain those thoughts.”